
There are days in this lifetime when you wonder – why did I get out of bed today and how fast can I go back to bed and pull the covers up over my head? Today, was one of those days and I’m betting each of you reading this has endured similar moments. As they say, what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
Six days ago I wrote a post about my sister because it was her birthday and as I was writing – and throughout the day – I kept thinking of a dear sweet man who meant the world to me as a child, and as an adult. It was his birthday as well, the same day as my sister’s and I was a puddle of emotions because along with remembering my sister, I knew this amazing man would soon pass from this earth. He was a kind, gracious and giving man – the father of my monkey sister – who patiently put up with our antics as kids. He was someone who was probably more comfortable in a saddle than anywhere else as he was the consummate cowboy – a rancher from the day he was born.
This morning, I received the news that he did indeed leave us and even though I knew it was coming my heart ached to the point I felt as if I would choke on the sense of loss I felt. After struggling through the day and waiting out the hours before I could return to my bed and hide under the covers, I realized that not only was I grieving for the loss of life, I was also experiencing the loss of a part of my childhood.
You know the old saying, “Don’t sweat the small stuff?” Yeah it’s about that; and how many of us get bogged down by the small stuff? I know I do. I’m impatient, it’s by far my worst character flaw, so I let stupid little things get to me and I forget to live in the moment. I need to be better about that, because truly, life is short and nothing really matters. And by nothing I mean, all the small daily stuff that clouds our minds.
So yeah, today was my it doesn’t really matter day; you know what I’m talking about right? Why do we get caught up in the small stuff, why do we let it into our minds, why do we give it that power over us?
- What is suppose to happen, will happen. Anything beyond that doesn’t really matter.
I think we know this to some degree when we’re younger, but as we grow older and hopefully, wiser, the stuff that really doesn’t matter – doesn’t matter – and on days such as this the point is driven home.
If there’s someone in your life who holds a special place in your heart, let him/her know, don’t wait. I was fortunate in that not too long ago, I was given the gift of spending time with this amazing man and I’m going to hold on to that precious visit for years to come, because anything beyond that really doesn’t matter.
Life is so fleeting! Taking time to enjoy it is very important.
So true!
I’m sorry for your loss too Patti; thank you for reminding me that the small stuff really doesn’t matter – I’m sending lots of love your way x

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Thank you so much, Amy, and safe travels to you and Andrew.
Oh Patti, I am so sorry for your loss. You said it so well. Yes, life is short and can be also randomly cruel. Make sure you treat those you love like it is their last day. You never know what will happen.

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Thank you Kerri. Yep, heaps lots ‘o love on those who are dear to your heart.
Yes! Perfect, Patti. You are so right. I’m so sorry for your pain, but grateful for your wisdom xx

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Thank you Sarah. All we can do is appreciate this life and live it the best we can making sure those we love, know it.
So sorry for your loss Patti. Thanks you for the advice, there are special people I thought of as I read your post. I haven’t talked to some for way to long and I am going to make a point to contact them and catch up and tell them how special they are to me. I get bogged down in the small stuff to, in fact that’s exactly how I have been lately, bogged down and focused on the unimportant (bahhhh, it makes me crazy!!!). Thanks for helping me refocus;)

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It’s so easy to get bogged down with the small stuff, the hard part is getting it out of our heads, definitely not an easy thing to do and it’s something I constantly work on. I am so fortunate in that I had the opportunity to tell this special man just how much he meant to me and it was a moment in time I will hold in my heart.
Well, Patti, I am truly so sorry for your pain. You write so poignantly and elegantly with an amazingly sad and heartbreaking story. Yes, we have had or currently have these same dark days and heartbreaking stories. Thank for your expression of putting it to words for those of us who may be experiencing pain.
Thank you Diane, for your kind words, which mean a great deal to me and I am sending my best to you and yours.
I don’t have anything epic or profound to say. I will tell you that I read this twice and my eyes got welled up, Patti. I’ve had several of those days recently re: wanting to pull the sheets over my head. But, I have a soul mate who refuses to let that happen. A good thing. You did just change the course of our morning. Another good thing. I’m so deeply sorry for your loss and hurt 🙁

Mike recently posted…A German Pancake Recipe for Mike and Phoenix
Just feeling the support, Mike, is all I need. Thank you for the gift of friendship.
that elegant man had a soft spot in his heart for you
As I did for him.
As I’ve aged, like you, I’ve had more and more frequent reminders about the fleeting nature of life and how it’s important to stop and smell the roses — or in my case (living in Hawaii for 3 months), the hibiscus. It’s hard to give up old patterns — if you’ve had a working life and raised a family, you know that sometimes the “small” stuff can feel quite big and there can also be an additive effect (lots of small stuff raining down at the same time). Give yourself the time to grieve.The laundry is not going anywhere.

Suzanne Fluhr recently posted…The Longest Day – Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA to Chiang Mai, Thailand
I really liked what you said here, Suzanne 🙂

Mike recently posted…A German Pancake Recipe for Mike and Phoenix
Me too, Mike!
Thank you, Suzanne, for the kind and wise words.